Thursday, April 30, 2009


My friends are going through this prositive mind recreation process and it's amazing to watch. I'm walking the same path but I've been taking it slower than them. There are no excuses so it's just something I need to work on and be more strict with myself. Even me writing this here is a big step, because it shows that I beleive in this and I want others to know what's happening. The biggest thing that I see for me is that it opens your eyes to how you can control you life. Right now I would dear to say 90% plus of the people in the world (including all you) are not in control of your life. I'm slowly but surely gaining more control everyday. When I feel I'm going to do something I either don't want to, think I can't, or know it's not good for me, I stop and say "I Control My Life" ... and I feel 100% better. It's simple things to like, fast food, junk food, going to the gym, sleeping in, ... and fear of trying. Yesterday I learned how to snowboard. At the start I was shaking and a little scared. I even thought about going in and grabbing some skis instead, but I said "I control my life", "I can do anything", and "I am awesome". After taking a moment to clear my mind and become clam I then just did it. I had a great time and I learned something new that I love (need a little more before I give up skiing though). We can all control our own lives. Take note of the different emotions you feel today, Joy, Happy, Proud, .... and think about the things that made you feel those. Then you can take those moments and recreate them to always feel those awesome emotions. That there is taking control of your personal state, and helping you come a step closer to controlling your life.

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Friday, April 24, 2009

Setting Goals

“Setting a goal is not the main thing. It is deciding how you will go about achieving it and staying with that plan.”

When you are motivated to achieve something, the next step is to set your goal. However, setting a goal is only one-fourth of what a person has to do. The rest involves effort and perseverance. When you set goals, the first thing you need to make sure of is that they are realistic. For example, you cannot just say that within one year, you will buy a house if you are only earning ten dollars an hour. Even when you put in 40 hours of work every week, you still won’t earn enough to purchase anything as big as it. So when you set a deadline, project a period of time that could give your goal a touch of realism.
After doing this, engage in activities that are in line with your goal. Have plans and do them. So for this case, gather your financial records and see where you stand. If you have saved a reasonable amount, then maybe you could adjust your timeline. Instead of getting a house in 10 years, perhaps you could purchase one in seven.
Also, stay with your plan. Now this is hard work because you probably have a lot of temptations that would deter you from staying with your plans and reaching your goals. If you really want a house, then prioritize it. Sure, you may have enough money to go on a fancy one-month vacation to Europe, but which is really more important for you? The vacation, no matter how appealing it may seem, could only sidetrack you from your dream house.
Whatever your goal is, the point is that you need to keep it in your sight. To do this, you need a plan and to follow that plan to heart. Of course you must remember that Plan A is always accompanied by Plan B. If Plan A fails, do not fret, this is why you have Plan B in the first place. It can get you back on track. In time you will reach your goal.
So, happy planning!

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Monday, April 13, 2009

Keep Your Tongue from Evil!

Keep Your Tongue from Evil!
Psalms 35:28

Speaking my mind, being curious, creating stories and just helping minds wonder is something that I can't seem to gain full control of in my life. In trying to better myself this always seems to be that one thing that keeps getting me in trouble that I should not be in. And it's the hardest trouble to get out of if understanding is far away.

"It is easier to leave angry words unspoken than to mend a heart those words have broken."

I can't even count the number of times I've been placed in situations that were caused by my words alone. It's easy to say it's just words and thoughts but words hurt and thoughts can turn to action.

"Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing."
Proverbs 12:18

So it is very wise to learn the limits and tricks to put your focus else where or just stay silent. I've become very good at keeping my silence and using things like this blog to help focus my thoughts.

"There is a time for everything...a time to be silent and a time to speak."
Ecclesiastes 3:1&7

I thought venting and ranting to people was a way to get it out, but even that is letting those words come to life and find a place to live outside of me. Everything we say or do is out there and attached to ourselves for good or bad to see.

"In everything you do, stay away from complaining and arguing, so that no one can speak a word of blame against you..." Philippians 2:14-15

In writing this I found a lot of bible references around the topic. It's clear to see that the tongue is powerful and to be highly respected. This is my failing and almost an addiction I need to cut loose and learn to control. I find the hardest parts of staying in control are having people around that are willing to listen, always online so people are click away, cell phones where a simple click brings ears to the end of your words. It's not about making sure I control those items, but that I control myself. I have people in my life that depend on me and while I've cut out obvious items that could threaten my life, this one is the most powerful and still a battle I am going to win.

"I will watch my ways and keep my tongue from sin; I will put a muzzle on my mouth…"
Psalms 39:1

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Thursday, April 9, 2009

Are you the best you can be?

Treat a person as he is, and he will remain as he is. Treat a person as if he were where he could be and should be, and he will become what he could be and should be. - Jimmy Johnson
I always want others to push me to my limits and beyond. I've been told by people they see something is going to be great and they never question that I'll succeed in life. Well I want them to push me there and treat me like the person they know I can and should be.

As individuals we can only see ourselves as far as we believe in ourselves. Most times our perception of our abilities falls way short of the true potential we have inside of us. We are all great in some way or form. We all have dreams of where we want to be. We all have the skills to get us there. But do we all have the drive to get there?

We should never sell ourselves short of what we "can be"

Too many people take criticism personally and feel it's like an attack on them. When in truth it's a learning experience that we should grow from. Every time somebody tells you that you are doing something wrong, how to do it better, to do something different, what to change, how to change, or anything that points out our mistakes. We need to take that with a positive spin and use it to better ourselves.

We can only become better by changing, and we can only change through the eyes of others.

I've been getting beat up for years on how I do things and how I am. It took me a long time to remove the emotion and just learn that life is like school. You study, do a test, get a grade. If the grade sucks then you fix what you did wrong and do better. If the grade is great then you get to move on to even harder things. If you can learn to treat life that way and see your criticizers as your teachers then there are no limits on where you can go.

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Friday, April 3, 2009


In starting out in business I would fudge my resumes and I would tell clients I knew things I didn't. This is all great to get the gig, but when you are trapped and expected to know the stuff you told them issues arise. A long time ago I started to just tell it like it is. If a client wanted to know about a product or solution I never used I would tell them I have now idea ... but I'll do the research and I'm sure I can have an answer by COB. I've found that through being so open with clients it has not only strengthen my relationships but it has also increased my knowledge. If a client knows I'm doing my best they are more open to get me in contact with others they may have the answers, or they give me access to resources to help me. Through this process the growth possibilities are endless and the doors to new opportunities always seem to open

Trust and honesty are the keys to life and business. It takes years to gain it, but only moments to loose it.


Successful people have cultivated the habit of never denying
to themselves their true feelings and attitudes.
They have no need for pretenses.

Once you accept yourself completely you don't have to
maintain a phony front, or feel insecure if people don't
tune in to you and what you're doing.

Visualize what you really want,
not what someone else wants for you.
Don't forfeit three-forth's of yourself to be like other people.

First say to yourself what you would be
and then do what you have to do.



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Wednesday, April 1, 2009

You don't have to ask permission to succeed!

You don't have to ask permission to succeed!

What a statement with so much truth. Take a moment and think about it ......... you don't have to ask permission to succeed. I don't know what to say other that it's all about just doing it and getting it done. If you can reach that goal then who's going to be upset, who's going to be yelling at you, who's going to care how you got there ... NOBODY! They are going to be excited that you did succeed and made that goal come to life.

The quote comes from one of my top must read books, No Excuse Leadership. Now there are several other great lessons from this book, but the main focus is that you just have to do it. Nothing is easy and only those prepared to work hard are going to win. I wrote more notes in this book than anything else before.

Some lessons taken from this book:

  • Lead by example; you can't force others to be a certain way, you can only lead.
  • There are only two options, success or excuses
  • Anybody can be a leader; leaders are trained
  • Practice is the key to success
  • Always be yourself and never try to change that
  • It takes more work to try and get out of work; just do it
The number of little situations and concepts taken from each story are endless in this book. It was such an eye opener to see how easy reaching your goals and success are. All that is required is a will to succeed no matter what, and knowing you don't need permission to get there.

Curious of my list of must reads? Here you go:
(friend me on goodreads to see all my books)

"You don't have to ask permission to succeed!"

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